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Nuggets for a sure-fire attitude to achieving your goals

Posted by admin | Success Nuggets | Thursday 30 July 2009 5:35 pm

I have not failed, I’ve found 10,000 ways that won’t work-Thomas Edison

Have you been frustrated because something you hoped would work out just wouldn’t ? Well you are not alone in this. Every single person that has achieved anything worthwhile has been there. The key to finally arriving at your goal is hanging on for as long as it takes. Michael Jordan now acclaimed by a lot of pundits as the greatest basketball player of all time once said, “I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life and that is why I succeed”. And this is probably why Zig Ziglar commented, “Failure is a detour, not a dead-end street”.

That things haven’t shaped up your way does not mean you have come to the end of the road. But it does mean that you have not discovered how to produce that result. And as you keep trying and refining your strategy you would get to a point where success becomes inevitable.

You must realise that it really doesn’t matter what life or people in it are throwing at you at the moment for as David Brinkley would put it, “A successful man is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks others have thrown at him”. See blow a few important nuggets that could be helpful on your way:

1. Never give up suddenly, sucees might just be around the bend.

In collaborating this fact Ross Perot once said, “Most people give up just when they’re about to achieve success. They quit on the one yard line. They give up at the last minute of the game one foot from a winning touchdown.” Wayne Dyer agreed with this fact when he said, ” It’s never crowded along the extra mile”. And William Feather reasons that success seems to be largely a matter of hanging on after others have let go. The bottomline is,  “When you come to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on”-Franklin D. Roosevelt.

2. Improve your odds.

According to Arnold H. Glasow, Success is simple. Do what’s right, the right way, at the right time. Usually the problem is that we do not always know what is right, how to do it and/or when. So often in life we muddle our way through. And thats probably why Winston Churchill  once said that success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm. However if you learn from other people’s experience rather than try to wade your way through without a clue, you improve your chances of achieving your goal earlier. So look out for people that are succeeding at what you are interested in and find out what it is that they are doing. Modelling them can greatly improve your odds. A Chinese Proverb says, “…to know the road ahead, ask those coming back”. 

3. Never let disappointment deter you.

Learn from the ant. If you placed an obstacle in its path, it doesn’t just stop. it tries to climb over it, go round it, go through it…it just does anything it can to get to the other side. And its instructive to hear the words of Thomas Jefferson, who once said, “I find that the harder I work, the more luck I seem to have”.

4.  Keep your eyes on your goals, that way you can better manage the obstacles.

Its when you get your eyes off the goals, you begin to feel the hurt and pain of failure. These feelings affect your judgement and poison your enthusiasm and poise.

5. Persever against all odds.

And what is perseverance? Newt Gingrich defines it this way, “Perseverance is the hard work you do after you get tired of doing the hard work you already did”.  And you might want to hear what Albert Einstein thinks about sticking in there. He said, “It’s not that I’m so smart, it’s just that I stay with problems longer”.

6. Never blame people and places for your failures.

Take responsibility. Change what you do not like. Jim Rohn said, “If you don’t like how things are, change it!  You’re not a tree”. Create the conditions that support your goals. Sometimes you don’t even need to change anything. All you need to do is realise the value of what you have at the moment. The little you have can work wonders. Put it to work! Theodore Roosevelt suggested, “Do what you can, with what you have, where you are”. So what do you have in your hands now?

7. Don’s allow your current circumstances define or limit you.

G.B. Shaw, [Mrs. Warren’s Profession, 1893] once observed, “People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are.  I don’t believe in circumstances.  The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can’t find them, make them”.

7. Rise up every time you stumble.

A Japanese Proverb says fall seven times, stand up eight.  And Ralph Waldo Emerson puts it thus, “Our greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising up every time we fail”. 

8. Keep on doing what you need to do-day in day out.

Don’t hibernate or go idle out of frustration. Have you realised that its often the last key in the bunch that opens the lock? And hear this illustration from Jacob A. Riis, “Look at a stone cutter hammering away at his rock, perhaps a hundred times without as much as a crack showing in it.  Yet at the hundred-and-first blow it will split in two, and I know it was not the last blow that did it, but all that had gone before”.  

9. Don’t accept less because circumstances seem to have forced you to.

Be flexible! But also have the wisdom to stick to your guns. If you have to accept anything less than you had hoped for, let it be because you want to, not because you have to. Keep pushing until your wildest dreams come through. According to Jimmy Johnson, “…the difference between ordinary and extraordinary is that little extra”.

10. Finally, take your life in your own hands.

Always remember that while God is the architect of your destiny, you are the architect of your own outcomes. When you blame others, you give up your power to change. Work hard. Go for it. Give no place to laziness, laziness would cause you pain.The ultimate folly is to think that something crucial to your welfare is going to be taken care of by someone else. Yes it could but you can’t depend on that, else I assure you, you’ll get burnt more times than you can possibly  imagine.

Narrow your focus, broaden your chances

Posted by admin | Life goals/Planning,Uncategorized | Sunday 28 June 2009 3:50 pm

“Excellence is in the details. Give attention to the details and excellence will come.”
-Perry Paxton

As a result of the current quick-fix culture in society today, most of human civilisation has degenerated  into a situation where people are frequently and easily  distracted from focussing on important tasks
leading to a wide spread inability to be the best at what we do.

Way back in High school,we had to do certain Physiscs experiments one of which involved trying to focus rays of light on surfaces using lenses. While trying to focus the rays of the sun on a piece of paper,we made a startling discovery-if we allow the rays go through the lens and hit the sheet of paper without converging, not much came of it. But if we make the rays converge at a distict point on the sheet, then it got so hot that it caught fire. In the same way you might never get fired off in life if you refuse to focus. Focus is everything in the world of success and achievement.

The few people that are consistently breaking records in what they do [I have come to realise] are people who more often than not focus on a single mission, task, goal career or target.

Essentially, most of mankind is unable to operate in excellence because of a lack of focus. Evidently, trying to know and do everything does not speak of focus. You must come to a point in your life that you realise that you CANNOT be a master at all the things you have a passion for or what you would want to do. So kick yourself immediately and make a decision on what to focus on.Go to work on it. Find out every information
about it and hit the road and in a few short weeks, months or years, you would have achieved a level of mastery, success and recognition that would bring you the fun, satisfaction and fulfilment you have always craved.

Some important questions you might need to consider:
1. Do you know that a lack of focus might just be what has been short-changing you?
2. And do you know that your inability to focus might just be responsible for all the current outcomes that are not commensurate with your potentials?
3. While you are doing well at the moment, do you know that you could remarkably improve your output and/or performance if you could further narrow your focus?
4. Do you know that the best way to avoid distractions on your way to career, academic & professional success might just be deciding to feed a current focus with most of your resources?

6 practical ways to improve your speed & performance

Posted by admin | Life goals/Planning | Saturday 4 April 2009 7:33 pm


1. Learn to concentrate

Someone once said, “Concentration is the most Important Intellectual Habit of Man.”. If you lack it, you would most certainly have problems optimising your performance. So go for it. Learn to focus on one thing at a time. Focus is a powerful thing! It is a proven fact that if you  concentrate your thought and emotion on a singular subject, you are most likely to make a remarkable impression in that area. But if you choose to jump from one activity to another your speed and output is affected, your chances of making mistakes increase and you are unlikely to give necessary attention to details. It has been demonstrated in efficiency tests that time and energy are lost not so much on the task at  hand than in passing from one task to another.  Furthermore, in today’s fast paced environment, it is a brilliant idea to consider turning off your mobile phone and hang off the internet [IM, email…and lately Facebook] if you are serious about that making the best of your time on an important task.

2. Take working breaks

Taking a break is not only  desirable but it’s imperative. A break helps you refresh. Even noticed the performance of your computer after it is rebooted? Its faster, smarter and somewhat or in a sense, understands you better. Thats what happens when you reboot. Breaks improve your productivity, help you relax or rest your body, and refreshes your mind. To understand the hazard of working for too long without a break, you might want to ask people working/looking on a computer for log periods. The muscles in the eyes are usually do not have the time to expand, move or even relax. The over-exertion that occurs may then lead to eye strain. For some people this causes headaches, soreness and blurred vision. 10 minutes break for every hour of focus is a good idea, you might want to consider it.

3. Confront  the hard tasks first

Remember those tasks you always prefer to put at the bottom of the list because you are not happy attending to them? the sad thing is that if you are like me, you would realise that these tasks end up being undone at the end of the day, week or month and because they are important still show up on the list during the next planning circle. Its a smart thing to get them done with first. They usually constitute a psychological drain on your energy because they are always on your mind. It’s understandable that you would usually be tempted to do the easier tasks first [at least because they are easier] but experience shows that its wiser to get the “difficult” task off the way first. Also note that it is a proven truth that the things you put at the bottom of you to-do list usually wind up being the things that are either undone or improperly done.

4. Get additional knowledge and information

Having more information or knowledge about what you are doing would certainly improve your performance and give you some speed. Experience has thought man that the time spent sharpening is more than made up for in the speed and efficiency gained in using a sharp knife. There is no point working very hard at something if you know you are not equipped with the know-how. Go get the know-how first. Make sure you are abreast off the most current information. Technology is designed to enhance speed and performance. Make sure you are current with the facts.

5. Make sure you have the right tools

The right tools would always make the job faster and require less energy. You must ensure you have the right tools for the job.

6. Delegate
Delegating work to others is a high payoff activity. It frees extra time that you can commit to other important tasks. But if you concern yourself with all the things that need to be done, you might end up stressed.

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